It takes a while to start to shed this kind of sexual baggage and to feel like it’s permissible to really enjoy sex with a partner as sex and not as a means to something else. It takes time, but age teaches you that sex can be an end in and of itself.
About seven years ago, I found myself standing on our front porch observing something strange. My daughter had brought her boyfriend – someone very, very special – down to our home to really get to meet him. He arrived in…
My students are often dismayed when I announced that the worst is still in front of them. The teens, even with High School, adolescence, and hell of Jr. High (considered by many the worst time ever), is not the worst…
Procession: Reading: Dance me to your beauty with a burning violin. Dance me through the panic ’til I’m gathered safely in. Lift me like an olive branch and be my homeward dove. Dance me to the end of love.
So, you may ask, why does this rank and one of the most significant moments of my already event crowded year? Because my brother broke out of his guarded comfort zone and decided to fly again, to soar on the wings of love. This year my brother has a bit of hero status with me. I am the risk taker in the family, more than the others, but he showed that love at first site is real and that dream matches do exist.
Nobody runs down on the wedding night with a sheet, points to a wet spot and shrieks, “Look! She just touched it and it went off like a Roman Candle! He’s a VIRGIN!” No, nobody does that. Nobody promises women that if they martyr themselves for a cause they will be rewarded with seventy male virgins every day in heaven, because, for women, that would be hell
Unapologetically I acknowledge my desire to be coupled. For as long as I can recall that was the goal, to find my match, my missing lung that made breathing easier in life, my partner in crime, the person whose night ‘noises’ were more of a comfort than a distraction. Two marriages later it would seem I am no closer to finding my missing part than I was at nearly 22 years of age when I said my first vows.
It’s true, I have admitted (to the horror of some) falling in love some seven times. Over the course of my life I have figured out a philosophy that works for me but scares the hell out of most, I call it Fast Tracking a Relationship. Remember it, learn it and it will save you from certain disaster in making poor long term choices. I will stand by this philosophy every time because it absolutely works as intended.