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Divorce Disaster Preparedness, Part I: Duck, Cover, and Hold.

But you know, it just shouldn’t be the role of the people going through the divorce to convince you that their divorce would be okay for you. It isn’t your divorce. It isn’t up to you. You’re not their judge and jury. If you’re their friend, be a friend. If you’re their family, be their family. Maybe you do know better. Good for you. But this is not your moment to play Judge Judy, Dear Abby, Solomon, or Freud. Do everyone a favor and shut the fuck up.


Divorce Disaster Preparedness, Part II. Picking a side or the sideline.

Now, being loyal doesn’t mean that you have participate in craziness. It doesn’t mean that you always have to agree. It doesn’t mean that you can’t try and talk her out of a vendetta or tell him that he’s being a monstrous jackass. It doesn’t mean that you have to give up your own beliefs. It does mean that you should express your commitment to your long-term relationship. It does mean that you should refrain from undermining her in the family or public. It does mean that you try to protect the him as best you can. And it does mean that sometimes you bite your lip and hope things work out in the long term