I saw a woman online that I’d met some time ago. We only met for coffee one time, but agreed to meet again for a dinner at a local restaurant. During the week we exchanged a few messages but by the end of the week, as the ‘date night’ approached, she dispatched with me saying I reminder her too much of her brother-in-law. She added that she could never be romantically involved with someone like him although she thought highly of him just the same. No big deal, anyone left to swim the currents of the singles world these days comes to expect numerous “One cup” dates.
I sent her an uncomplicated email asking how things were going adding the clichÃ©, “…it’s a jungle out there.” To my surprise she wrote back and acknowledge the jungle nature of the singles scene, but she did add a few newsy details of how her weekend had gone working on the yard, then politely ask how things were going with me.
At that point I realized my One Cup date yielded a friend. No presumption of further romance here, just a comfortable exchange to signal acceptance. The lions and wildebeests moved on and we were left to the savanna’s safe open spaces. She knew I was not a lion, I knew she was not the prey.
When was the last time you realized you had made a friend? How do you signal acceptance and a willingness for friendship after beating back a romantic advance?
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