'Betty' was #4

Betty_was_number_fourAlthough the shootings at Virginia Tech grabbed the world stage for the last few days I found myself wanting to withdraw from the news coverage of it. So much of the media descended on this college town that many crews couldn’t make it to the scene in a timely way. Instead of ‘missing the opportunity’ they just pulled over to the side of the highways, setup their satellite equipment and broadcast authoritatively about the carnage, citing sketchy information from other news wires. All of this reminded me of the 80’s hit song “Dirty Laundry” by Don Henley (member of the Eagles, his is the voice on Hotel California). For me at least, it was more than I cared to view, I tuned out.

Last evening I was supposed to head into Seattle to work on a website for a friend and her man. I’ll refer to her as ‘Betty’, that’s not her real name. She was the woman I was starting to date after my divorce started nearly two years ago until I met Erin, whom occupied my time for the next eight months. ‘Betty’and I always remained friends despite her angst at being dumped. She refers to me affectionately as Foxworthy, I call her Russo. She met a nice man about six months ago and is very happy. Since I hadn’t heard from ‘Betty’ I went home with a new piece of recording equipment I’d ordered, I didn’t pay much attention to the fact she hadn’t provided directions to their home.

‘Betty’ came online (I use Yahoo Messenger) about 7 PM last night and said hello. Curiously, her lively writing style was subdued, it was then she told me her lovely niece was one of the victims. My heart sank, tears came to my eyes as I expressed my sympathy for her loss. Even when trying to avoid being effected by this terribly event I find myself deeply touched by it now.

‘Betty’ is on my 360 Friends list. She was the fourth person I added to my list. Words are not sufficient to express anything meaningful, sometimes just listening is best. I told her I’d keep her and her extended family in my prayers. I believe it makes a difference.

In closing let me add, our wonderful country is under attack by people that hate our way of life. We haven’t done as much as the world press lays at our feet, and we further get taken for granted at our generosity as a country. It’s such a scape goat to hear people say they ‘Support our troops’ when they are really masking their distain for our position on the world stage. I ‘Support our country’, that includes the troops too and the naive ‘peace-niks’ who can speak their minds without recrimination because we are so free. God bless America I say, may she stand tall and proud.

Websites and new recording equipment don’t seem so important at the moment.

Thanks for reading this far.


4 comments for “'Betty' was #4

  1. Oregoncelt
    April 20, 2007 at 4:53 pm

    I have never closed my eyes to the world around me. I am always painfully aware and surprisingly delighted at times. I am not a big fan of media coverage, I know that we need to be informed, but for the most part the media rapes, pillages, and plunders to the point of obscene. I have friends who lost loved ones in this terrible tragedy, it is hard to know what to say to them, sometimes nothing is the best answer, just a hug and a tear says it all. I feel the world and I love America with all of its flaws, the sacrifice of military and civilian has made us as strong and free as we are today. Senseless tragedy should never be associated with freedom.

  2. Rose J.
    April 19, 2007 at 9:06 pm

    Often times I took tend to want to withdraw when something tragic like this happens, but this time, I found myself deeply affected by this horrible crime. I grew deeply sad and found myself crying for this senseless loss. A person on my friends list who is from the UK attacked us and called us stupid Americans for being apathetic about gun cotrol. I haven't gathered up the words yet to write a response to that, or I don't know if I ever will. To me it just seemed to be another excuse for this person to laude hatred against our country and our government. I am not saying we are a perfect country, far from it, but we are a strong one, and I stand by it. On another note, I am one of those "peace-niks" who believes we do need to take some measures to make it not so easy to get a gun. Virginia, I've read, is one of the easiest States to obtain one. Some type of reform needs to be done. I also think our values are messed up and our children are growing up without solid foundations to have the support they need in this society.

    On a personal note, I am deeply sorry for your friend's loss.

  3. Tim H
    April 19, 2007 at 1:20 pm

    Evi – Thanks for you thoughts at a time like this.

    Rose – I've talked to a few people around the world that have nothing but hatred pouring out of them when you mention our country's impact. They are generally nice to me however, so it's a curious thing how that can actually happen. It's easy to hate until you put a face on the object of your hate.

    Note to all: I've edited my blog and removed this persons name from it. She has asked that she be left to grief in her own way.

  4. Evi
    April 19, 2007 at 2:53 pm

    Im very sorry and I express my deep condolences to your friend.
    I can only imagine whats going on in America if even in my country thats all people were talking about lately. But all the tears, mourning and grief cant even close stand to all the feelings people who were there that terrible day had to come through. I mourn with all of them and keep them in my prayers.

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